Part 7 of 31 Things Americans Should Think About Before Moving Abroad : Staying Close with Family and Friends

Moving abroad sounds exciting—and it is.

But there’s one part of the journey that’s hard to plan for ahead of time: the emotional distance from the people you love.

I’m Darien, a U.S. American who moved to the Netherlands, and this is Part 7 of my series: 31 Things Americans Should Consider Before Moving Abroad.

The Sandwich Years Make This Even Harder

When you’re young, adjusting to life away from family is often expected—just part of growing up. But if you’re in the sandwich years—balancing a career, raising kids, and caring for aging parents—moving abroad can bring a very real sense of heartbreak.

What Your Kids Gain (and What They Lose)

For your kids, a move abroad can be an incredible opportunity.They might learn a new language, immerse themselves in a different culture, and develop a global mindset.

But what they give up?

Proximity to grandparents.

Those casual family get-togethers.

The ability to drop in for a weekend visit.

Traditions that used to be effortless now require international flights, school break coordination, and major expenses—if they happen at all.

Staying in Touch Isn’t Always Easy

Even maintaining connections can be harder than you expect.You’ll miss birthdays, coffee dates, and everyday moments.

Depending on where you move, even video calls get complicated.Try catching your family at a convenient time when you’re living six or eight hours ahead. (Good luck syncing schedules with a toddler on a nap routine and a grandma in different time zones.)

Friendships Will Shift—Even the Close Ones

No matter how strong your relationships are, some will shift.It’s not that people stop caring. Life just… moves on.

And while you might keep close with the adults in your life, it’s the little ones—nieces, nephews, your best friend’s kids—who may grow up without really knowing you.

Questions to Ask Before You Go

Before you make the leap, take a moment to reflect:

How will you stay connected across the miles?
Are you prepared for some relationships to change?
What will you do to make sure your kids still feel close to extended family?

Moving abroad is bold and life-changing. But it also comes with real emotional sacrifices.

The question isn’t just where you’re going—it’s also about who you’re leaving behind… and how you’ll keep them in your life once you’re gone.

Did you find this helpful? Are you planning a move abroad? Work with me to make your move from a place of clarity and organization.